the Yin and the Yang of circle
Yin and Yang element in circle
There exists an inescapable tension within Circling, and perhaps within all human relationships, between being non-judgmentally open and accepting whatever is arising (the so-called “relational meditation”.)
The Yin of Circling (feminine aspect) is the more inclusive, embracing the aspect of Circling – noticing, feeling, and receiving the moment as it unfolds, with “nowhere to get to but more here”. This might be the aspect of circling that primarily values “connection”.
The Yang of Circling (masculine aspect) is the more transcendent, active, directive, and challenging – it asks penetrating questions expresses desires, expose patterns, seeks to achieve closure or else transformative or illuminating outcomes. This is the aspect of circling that primarily values “truth”
What is the different
“Yin” might include: noticing what’s present, opening up to and feeling and embracing another’s experience; while “Yang” might be more interested in naming what is missing (the possibility of having a deeper experience or discovering more truth), drilling in, stepping outside of patterns, enlarging perspective. These opposing and yet highly complementary attitudes might be summarized by “I get you and I am here for you” [Yin], versus “Here is what you are missing and how it could be better” [Yang]. Yin trumps Yang. I have stated this already when speaking about “connection intent”. Connection is achieved primarily through Yin practices, while excessive Yang practices (such as challenging feedback that is not coming from a place of empathy and understanding) will destroy the connection.
However, if we only do Yin practices such as empathy and appreciation, while withholding our truth that we are (perhaps) bored or feeling angry, then the group will be flat and generally unsatisfactory, or worse (because when we withhold our
true feelings out of fear, or obligation to be “nice”, often come out sideways and destructively later).
So what, what is circling practice?
Circling is primarily a practice of un-withheld present-moment connection to self and others; therefore everything we do and say (or don’t do and say) ought to, ideally, serve truth and connection. Thus we want to amplify practices that are known to create connection, such as curiosity, empathy, vulnerable sharing, appreciation, use of ownership language.
This is some good read from Circling and my reflection
What do you think?
Have you ever have any experiences in cirlce that demonstrate Yin and Yang element in Circle. Please comment and share your story.
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